> They can give you emotional stability, that comes from within.

Completely true. That's what I meant when I said that maybe we should be focusing on being people others would want to spend time with, really. Working on our own emotional strength and stability. I don't think anyone's happy in a relationship with a person who's imbalanced or who hopes others will supply her with the calm or strength she lacks.

You make a very good point, what you said about the laws and being like this from the beginning. I had not thought of it this way, so thank you for shining a new light on this argument. I'm not sure how to respond to that, since I can only speak for myself, and am shaped by my own era/conditions/opportunities, etc. But thank you, I'll think about that.