Thank you for the answer! It's very encouraging. An ex who was quite older told me the same, he said it would be much easier for me to bounce back after having kids in my (then) early 20s than it would be later on. At the time, I had no clue what he was talking about, but the more I live, the more I see there was some logic there. Everyone keeps saying oh don't "waste" your 20s on kids, so it's really heartening to see people who don't say that. Thank you :D