Oh yes, I do agree age has got something to do with it, and I have met men in their 30s on both extremes you described (as I'm sure there are women).

Now I'm wondering if maybe we seek out extremes ourselves. Because it seems to me there are nice, balanced people to go around, maybe we're just running into the extremes. And maybe there's a reason for that. Who knows.. thank you for the input :) It has a very silver lining vibe.