Oh no, that's not what I meant at all :) I meant that in the sense of self-growth and development. You know, nurturing in yourself healthy qualities that would also be appealing for people who, like you mentioned in another comment, are looking for mature, healthy relationships.

I know it's just my 2 cents worth, but I would never tell any woman (or man) to change just to please some man. Never. :) Hope that clears it up a bit!